Interviews

Quilt Woman: Carolyn, Co-Founder of Tia Clinic

Quilt Woman: Carolyn, Co-Founder of Tia Clinic

I grew up in a very entrepreneurial family where taking risks and the path “less followed” was actively encouraged. This risk taking mentality was balanced by unconditional support and a “we’ll be here if shit hits the fan” type of love. This duality in my upbringing and family today has been key in pushing me to become a founder and taking risks in my personal and professional life.

Quilt Woman: Jana Roemer

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We live. We make choices. We deal with consequences. We break, we grow, we forgive, we celebrate, we laugh. This is life. We all do it and it looks different for each of us. In the end, we all long for the same things: To be heard. To be seen. To belong. To love and be loved.
— Jana Renee Roemer

We sat down with Quilt woman Jana Roemer - Yoga Nidra teacher and a Midwife of Awakening. She shared with us her story and battles along the way that led to her finding her true north. We talk perfectionism, self sabotage and compassion. Check out some raw advice Jana shares with us from her winding journey.


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Q: Can you share about your background and upbringing? How has your background and upbringing influenced the woman you are today?

A: I was raised on an acreage outside of a small town Saskatchewan, Canada. There were 150 people on two streets shaped like a cross just off the side of a quiet highway. Our property had a river running around it and there were wild animals who often showed up curious as to what this house was doing in their playground. My Mom was and still is an incredible woman who created a beautifully skewed version of reality where all mamas loved their kids unconditionally. My Dad grew up in a family that did things a little differently than my mom's family. He was the kid who moved out when he was 17 and swore he would raise his kids differently than he was raised. He was incredibly supportive and always reminded me that I could do anything I set my mind to and that he believed in me. My parents always had my back. Yet, I had a deeply rooted belief that I wasn't lovable which caused me to sabotage most friendships and created social anxiety for the majority of my life until I was in my early 30's. It’s a strange polarity, because there was a confidence inside of me, but extremely sensitive and overly emotional, and the world's reactions to me were so different than my intentions, which left me feeling confused and often rejected. 

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Even with that confidence, depression was no stranger. Rounds started young, in single digits. There have been cycles of really dark times and each time, it was me who pulled myself out. Each time, a Spiritual journey ignited that evolved and changed over the years in radically different ways. I remember being so angry with God as a teenager that I became an Atheist because all the promises of God saving me or answering prayers turned out to be false by my teenaged perceptions and desires. It took the deaths of two high school friends and a random run in with a psychic in my early 20's to re-ignite my faith, but this time, in a more esoteric and intuitive way. As early as I can remember the sky was always my solstice. I would stare at that moon and contemplate life. I watched the stars and always wondered which one I came from (my dad always referred to the times before I was born as when I was a twinkle in the sky). One of my favorite contemplations from the time I was 7 or 8 years old was on infinity. Time alone in nature was my savior and safe place. I knew all the constellations and my journal was my best friend.

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It took five years from the moment I knew I needed to teach, to actually start teaching.


In my Saturn return, I was a little shit. Drinking excessively, cheating on my then long distance boyfriend with a thrill seeking, successful man who loved the chase and challenge of landing a taken women - he fulfilled everything I wasn't getting in the relationship. When I finally broke it off with my long distance boyfriend, the affair dude lost interest and disappeared into a new scandalous relationship. My boyfriend and I rekindled our love, moved to a new city together and then life literally kicked my ass one day on the ski hill and landed me in the hospital flat out with a broken back. I had no local long time friends, my boyfriend was out of town and I received the greatest gift of my life: 10 days immobilized, laying down in a hospital, alone with nothing to do but take a long, hard look at my life. Those 10 days and the two surgeries bookending that year were the beginning of my journey back to my heart and Soul.

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Everything changed. After breaking my back and using yoga to heal not only my physicality, but my heart, it was strikingly apparent that I could no longer ignore the call to share this practice with as many people as I could. That has turned into a decade long career teaching people how to teach yoga through 200 and 300 hour YTT's and now, Yoga Nidra trainings. That role has inspired me to be the biggest nerd student and study with the best teachers I could find so that I can cultivate the best teachers possible to share the practice with even more people than I could ever reach on my own. It's a beautiful ripple affect. Yet, I have to confess: My motivation isn't about creating more yoga teachers. It's about utilizing that structure to connect and provide experiences for people to fall in love with themselves, to forgive themselves and to connect with their greatest purpose for being. Out of each 200 hour YTT, if only a third of the people teach, I feel okay with that, as long as they all leave feeling more connected to themselves, their hearts and their purpose.

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If I'm really honest -- those years as a little shit, partying, traveling and utter irresponsibility have been as valuable to me in finding my way as the effort I have put toward restoring the light and joy in my life. There was something so important about rebelling from my upbringing and famiyl values that couldn't have come any other way.

It all influences.

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Q: This month, we’re exploring Compassion. Can you tell us about a moment that required you to find more compassion towards yourself or someone else than you ever thought possible? How did you go about doing this?

A: I actually think the experience cheating on that long distance boyfriend that was the beginning of compassion for me. Had I not lived that, I would have remained judgmental toward anyone who isn't 'perfect' or acts out of alignment with societal expectations. I deeply understood how being hurt and unseen could cause someone to seek love outside of partnership. I understood the pain of being the one who caused another to be hurt. AND it was key in unraveling the strange expectations that society places on us that we just accept as normal when they are really damaging. I had to forgive myself for so much selfish behavior in that relationship and was amazed at my boyfriend’s ability to forgive me. I learned the power of honesty when we started sorting through it all. I told him everything because the only way for me to be able to continue on was to come completely clean. In the end it didn’t work, but wow, I learned more from that relationship then I ever could have imagined. I’m forever grateful for that time.

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Q: How do you practice compassion even when it’s difficult? Is there a go to quote, book, method that helps you when you’re struggling to practice compassion?

A: The main thing that I remind myself is that we never know anyone else's story or needs. We don't know where they have walked and the life curriculum they have been schooled in. I've had to strengthen my trust in that everyone does the best they can with where they are and remember that we are all fighting a tough battle.

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Astrology consistently brings me back to compassion too! Every natal chart I read, I am reminded that we are all trying, we are all confronted, we are all wounded, we are all longing to love and be loved. We all perceive and receive information differently. Our understanding of reality is radically different and our upbringing influences us in ways unseen. A few years back, I lost a dear girlfriend to a situation that we both experienced so differently that we couldn't even talk about it because we weren't having the same conversation. We both had our childhood wounds re-opened and unmet needs that made it impossible for us to see each other. It was me having an opportunity to look at her chart and what she was contending with through her personal astrology that allowed me to peel back the vice grips on my own painful reactions and have compassion for her pain. Ultimately, neither of us were fighting with the other, we were only in a battle with ourselves.  We’re friends again. Thank goodness! Phew!

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Q: What advice would you give to a woman who’s battling perfectionism?

A: You mean, what words do I give myself daily to continue on, to hit publish or to be easy on myself? Hahaha! I actually love the advice that we don't have to be perfect to publish or present, we just have to do it with our heart and soul. I still battle with my own blocks around perfectionism, so I might not be the best person to ask. I have learned to seek advice from people who have over come the same difficulties I am traversing. Maybe let someone else be the inspo for this one! Hahaha! My regular practice is to be gentle and forgiving with myself.

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Who are some of the women that have inspired you throughout your life? What did they teach you?

My Mom is forever my number one. I could cry just thinking about what she has done for me this life.

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My current inspiration is a woman named Tanis Fishman. She is the woman who escorted me into the deepest dive into my psyche and gave me the tools to heal my inner world like no other by teaching me how to guide the practice of Yoga Nidra. She pushed me out of my comfort zone with teaching challenges. She is humble and one of the most respectful and selfless teachers I have had the honor of studying with so far. She taught me humility and has set a new bar on how to be respectful of the students that come through courses and grow into teachers in their own right. Everything she has given me is still unfolding and I haven't found the bottom of the depth she has offered. 

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Every woman I have been in conflict with, felt jealous or envious of, confronted or rejected – they teach me so much. It’s not the easy kind of lesson, but the kinds of lessons forcing me to dig into myself and rise up. They have all taught me aspects of my relationship with my own power.

Q: What is your favorite part of your home?

A: My little desk, all my plants and my books.

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Quick fire (keep to one sentence or a couple of words):


Q: What books do you recommend most often?

A: The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza and Self Observation by Red Hawk – required reading for life + my trainings ;-)

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Q: Where do you go when you need to recharge?

A: Yoga Nidra, the beach or to stare at the moon and stars. Solitude in any form. Float tanks!

Q: What is your favorite drink or food to make when you have people over to your house?

A: Raw chocolate, a superfood elixir or anything with avocado


Q: To be a woman in American today is…   

A: …radically diverse


Q: One thing I wish more people knew about is…

A:…the power of stillness + the journey into the inner world

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Quilt Woman: Lenoria Addison

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Quilt Woman, Lenoria, shares her wisdom with us from the perspective of an entrepreneur, superwoman, and innovator.

To be a woman in America today is to unapologetically speak your truth.
— Lenoria

Q: How has your upbringing influenced the woman you are today?

A: I come from very humble beginnings so my upbringing has definitely made me more sensitive, resilient and empathetic.

Q: What do you think your superpower is?

A: My superpower is my ability to deeply connect with others and relate on an emotional level.

Q: When was a time in your life that you deviated from the norm and it paid off?

A: Anytime I’ve decided to invest in myself it usually pays off. I’ve held multiple jobs and I think usually the norm has been for people to stay working at the same company for “x” number of years, but for me I am curious. So because I’ve worked in multiple industries, I have a wealth of experience and can work across many industries and teams which I believe is an incredible strength. You essentially know a little about a lot of things and what you don’t know you can learn and master with practice and time.

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Q: Can you tell us about a time that you faced a difficult challenge and overcame it? How did you muster the strength?

A: Challenges are usually very humbling experiences that remind us that there is still so much more to learn. Challenges also exist to “challenge” our creativity and expand our way of thinking. I face challenges daily especially now that I am working on my startup, OPENLTR, full time. Usually, my strength comes from my friends and family who provide me emotional support when I am struggling to see the silver lining. We must train ourselves to be more agile in life.

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Q: Who are some of the women that have inspired you throughout your life? What did they teach you?

A: My aunts have inspired me greatly throughout my life and have taught me that no matter how successful I become in life, it’s always important to pay it forward and really truly invest in others in the same way that people have invested in me. This could be investing my time, expertise or other resources. It’s the circle of life.

Q: What is your favorite part of your home? Why?

A: My favorite part of my home is definitely my bed! It’s where I recharge and really disconnect from all responsibilities and the pressures of adulting, daily.

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Quick-fire (keep to one sentence or a couple of words):


What books do you recommend most often?

The back of the napkin

Sapiens

The sum of small things

Where do you go when you need to recharge?

A: Outside, anywhere where I am exposed to sun and surrounded by loved ones.

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What is your favorite drink or food to make when you have people over to your house?

A: I’ve been really into making salmon and vegetables when I host people!

What does it mean to be a woman today?

A: To be a woman in America today is to unapologetically speak your truth.

One thing you wish more people knew about…

A: Each other. Today we are so disconnected from one another.

Quilt Woman: Nancy Mayer Allan

Photos by  Carolyn DiLoreto

When we arrived to Nancy's colorful Pasadena home, we quickly gathered that she lives a vibrant life full of bright colors and fascinating experiences.

Being in the presence of a woman who knows herself as well as Nancy, is nothing short of aspirational. She's a painter, costume designer, photographer and creative beyond measure. Her curiosity for life is contagious and her genuine caring nature is what makes her an absolute gift to spend time with.

 

How has your background and upbringing influenced the woman you are today?

Wide-open West Texas skies and attitude. Loads of love, family, friends, and faith. I was taught to be anything I wanted, was given exposure to spirituality, sports, culture, arts, and music, so did it all! Life was not as “plugged in,” life was slower, so I had time to play in the afternoons, practice my piano, read books, in fact, we rarely watched TV (so when we did, it was a family affair and very memorable—LAUGH IN, SHINDIG, DISNEY FAMILY HOUR, THE ED SULLIVAN SHOW).

Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Series Interview
Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Interview Series

My parents were in love and it spilled over onto us—my father was sweet, gentle, kind; my mother was creative and fun-loving (she drove me 8 hours to Houston to see The Beatles when I was 11), welcoming (including all races). They taught me how to be a storyteller at the dinner table full of “company” (friends) and family and showed me the way to compassion by listening to others’ stories and embracing their differences. They were definitely unique in our part of the world—we had an unwed, pregnant young African-American woman live with us during her pregnancy; we entertained a young African-American military officer in our home on a regular basis; we included different Hispanic-American friends in our lives. This type of inclusion innately encouraged me to stand up for underdogs at school on a regular basis and for my little sister who was being bullied.

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Also, my mother found a couture level seamstress in our isolated town and they spent many hours knocking off Chanel suits, Galanos evening gowns, etc., so I grew up around fashion creation...and good tea cookies (and I still have tea and cookies every afternoon)! This definitely influenced my choice of careers as a costume designer, when I discovered that such a career existed! I had naturally won costume party awards during boarding high school and at Stanford, so figured I could teach myself to be a designer, which is what happened.

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Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Series Interview

All was not rosy in West Texas, however. When I was 5, I was sexually abused twice by a young teenage cousin, but because I had been learning that “God is good” at Sunday School, I instinctively knew these episodes didn’t seem right, so I told my grandfather who had been babysitting when they occurred. This stopped the abuse, but it wasn’t until I was a young adult that I really processed the event and was able to come to a state of complete forgiveness for my cousin. Because I feel my faith helped me heal, I continue to teach Sunday School 40 years later and hope it’s giving direction to other young people.

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What advice would you give to your 30 year old self?

I had two of my four children by age 30 and did not discover my costume design career until I was 32, so I think I would remind my 30 year old self, who felt a bit isolated at home in the early 80s when many were not having children, that there are a lot of chapters in life, be present, and enjoy every moment of every day—stay in the now as much as possible. Enjoy what’s in front of you at any given time.

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Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Interview Series

What are some tokens of wisdom that have stuck with you throughout the years?

Gosh, there are so many!

• Giving gratitude/giving back is huge and breaks pity-pot despair and whining.

• Look for the good in everyone even if it’s buried deep. You’ll be amazed at how often it sprouts in someone if you’re patient, expectant, and persistent. It’s helped me not write people off precipitously.

• Live the Golden Rule especially because every culture has a version of it—do unto others as you would have them do unto you.—so it’s something that can unite us instead of divide us.

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• My husband always told the kids that the only constant in life is change, so learn to ride the wave of that and not despair by seeing it as a journey; there’s never really an arrival point!

• Actions speak louder than words. Such a simple truism that reveals much about a person’s character.

• What blesses one, blesses all—that helps us view things/behave from an inward +outward, me + them perspective.

• My aunt told me that the only difference between a rut and the grave is the depth. Yikes! Don’t want to be stuck in a rut!

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• Try something new every year (that’ll help you not have ruts). We should expect progress/good so why not live it? As I said about change, life is an infinite journey, so we better keep learning as we go.

• Bloom where you’re planted. Don’t save up or postpone joyous living. Don’t think you can’t have as much fun doing errands as heading out on a spectacular voyage.

• Never limit/define yourself by age/time. Just because we circle the sun once a year and supposedly get “older” (who says?) doesn’t mean we suddenly stop being adventurous, expectant of good, compassionate, vital, full of possibility, etc.! I would also say this is true of our physical being—challenge prevalent assumptions about youth, mid-life, and older so-called limits for the body/brain.

• If I have to distill life down to one common denominator which transcends culture/ nationality/gender it is that everyone wants to be loved. It’s important to know that for better communication with each other because part of being loved is feeling you’re being heard.

• Live what you’re looking for. I say this all the time to people trying to attract a mate. Figure out the qualities you’re looking for and live them yourself!

• Our real job/meta-career is to figure out the spiritual/divine qualities we want to be and live them in every circumstance. So things like being loving, graceful, civil, compassionate, intelligent, honest, joyous, grateful, etc. are to be practiced at the grocery store, job, home, online. That’s what really defines us and our success and they’re not meant to be compartmentalized—e.g. nice at work, but a pain in the rear at home.

• If there’s a recurring pattern/problem in my life, I better look at it and fix it!

• I could probably keep going, but I’ll spare you more! Phew!
 

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When was a time in your life that you went rogue and it paid off?

In some ways I feel most of my life has been rogue! I’ve never really felt that I was “mainstream” even though there is a core of me that has traditional values—I believe in manners, being married, attending church, for instance. But the most rogue thing really has been that all of my careers have been self-taught or DYI. For instance, I got a phone call from a friend asking if I would like to be a stylist for a new commercial director. I said, “Sure! I can do that!” I worked for that director for 20 years and learned so many amazing things about costume design because it was the heyday of commercials and he was a former art director who happened to love every detail of costumes, right down to the underwear, buttons, and cufflinks! It sent me spinning off into red carpet, movies/tv, and editorial with a thorough education.
 

Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Interview Series
Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Interview Series

How do you embrace uncertainty in life?

By embracing it and never allowing fear to motivate or limit! Fear is the first sign that you better snap out of it and find a solution. If you expect there will be a solution and a new, interesting chapter that is what will open up for you. It’s also incredibly important to be still, quiet, humble, and in LISTENING mode—what we need are fresh ideas and approaches so we have to be prepared to hear them. This is why it’s so important to unplug from social media/music/streaming and its attendant noise and distraction. I LOVE to think when I’m driving, not always blasting music. It’s amazing how much undistracted/uninterrupted thinking can happen that way! In fact, I always have my Moleskine calendar laying in the passenger seat, so I can jot down ideas that come to me.
 

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If you have a difficult time making a decision, what do you do to find clarity?

More meditating/praying and listening to what I call, divine Mind...and when the heart feels right, that’s the answer! Head games (too much analysis) and pros/cons lists keep us confused and uncertain. I think you can get as much advice as you want, but ultimately, all individuals are required to take responsibility for their decisions. The other thing is understanding that it’s okay to change your mind if you start in one direction and it doesn’t feel right. The real enemy is not taking steps at all.
 

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What is your favorite part of your home? Why?

My office/studio because it’s visually stimulating and everyone pretty much leaves me alone! I also love sitting at my vanity surrounded by family photos and tchotkes the kids have given me. I love our dining room because it is in a light-filled room with a soothing view of our garden/pool and one of my outdoor paintings and the dining table is the first piece of painted furniture our artist friend made for us. But honestly, I try to enjoy wherever I am, even if it’s plopped in the plastic Ikea chairs in the kitchen!

Quilt Woman Series Interview Nancy Allen Artist
Quilt Woman Series Interview Nancy Allen Artist
Nancy Allen Quilt Woman Interview Series

Quilt Woman: Sherri Morr

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Q: Can you share about your background and upbringing?

A: I was raised as a good southern girl, a child of immigrants, in Norfolk, VA.  I am sure I do not have to explain the dichotomy of where I lived and where my roots were from

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Q: A classic question, but I can’t help but ask… What advice would you give to your 30 year old self?

A: Stick to your own priorities and desires...do not let other people( as in family) and their opinions of you sway you from your original ideals.

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Q: Can you tell us about a life-changing moment (or moments) that required you to use or step into your power? How did you go about doing this?

A: There was trauma in my family; unfortunately I was young, impressionable and for many years did not act as who I really was.  I acquiesced to not make matters worse. What saved me was a teacher who invited me to be a volunteer in the 4th grade with children with disabilities.  I did puzzles with them, read to them.  They accepted me 500% for who I was

Sherri Morr Interview Quilt Woman Series
Sherri Morr Interview Quilt Woman Series

Q: When was a time in your life that you deviated from the norm and it paid off? 

A: Probably when I was 31 and was divorced.

Q: What advice would you give to a woman who’s having a hard time tapping into her power?  

A: Seek resources to validate who you are; stand up to being different.  Be consistent.

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Who are some of the women that have inspired you throughout your life? What did they teach you? 

A: Sorry to say few inspirations until I was in my 30s.  They did however at this stage teach me to believe in myself; mainly friends, new people I was meeting in professional setting.

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Q: What is your favorite part of your home? Why? 

A: Bedroom & living room sofa.  I am most creative in thought when in bed;  I do my best thinking and my actions come to fruition.  It happens in my head, then  it gets transferred appropriately.  I love to read.  I am an avid reader, mainly lying down.  Reading motivates me, gives me good models to mirror and helps me be/stay strong.


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Quick fire…


Q: What books do you recommend most often?  

A: Novels about strong women; women authors who have experienced tragedy and written about it

Q: Where do you go when you need to recharge?  

A: The beach, the spa, the desert; hearing/seeing a motivating/inspiring film or musical presentation; plan a trip to a new place

Q: What is your favorite drink or food to make when you have people over to your house?

A: I make a lot of veggies( asparagus, colored carrots/new potatoes) paired with things like risotto, or pasta,  A unique salad( my fav is one I do with smoked trout) crunchy good bread and that's all I need. I prefer small light meals.  If a plate is presented to me dripping with food, it takes away my appetite.  However I always have room for dessert.

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Q: To be a woman in America today is

A: Challenging

Q: One thing I wish more  people knew about is

A: How to plan, evaluate and follow through.

Q: Anything else you’d like to add?

I think its powerful to be a Mom, to inspire another human being, to help guide, and teach.  I have been lucky to have amazing children, especially now that they are grown!!!

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